About NOT being a llama snob

Are you following @PrincessProbz on Twitter?
My bestie and I had a real blast with it during grad school because it's mostly insane, but also sometimes more than a little bit true. One of my favorite tweets was ages ago, but I quote it all the time:

@PrincessProbz: I only want to be social with people I want to be social with.

Generally, this pretty much sums up my life. I really enjoy the company of people that I really enjoy (does that makes sense?). And sometimes others may feel like I'm a bit difficult to approach... A friend snob, if you will.

I am terrible at being social with people that I feel like I have be social with. This happened in grad school a lot. There were a ton of nice people in my class, but I just had too much on my plate and felt like that awkward turtle at each and every not-in-class-or-a-seminar event. Like, a bump on a log. I came to terms with the fact that I'm just not that outgoing (unless there's liquor. liquor is a game-changer). I'd settled in nicely to the life of a semi-recluse with all the Pretty Little Liars a brain can handle, and then...

Enter: ENTREPRENEURSHIP

All of the sudden, I'm digging hanging out with strangers, striking up conversations, and forming partnerships. WHAT?! What happened to the Princess Probz?!

If you're like me and you find yourself very confused and out of your element in social (personal and professional) situations, I'm learning a few tips that make it oh-so-easy.

1. Show you're interested and someone will strike up conversation.
If someone is wearing a great sweater or cute boots, or at a workshop for work they have a cool business card or interesting product, walk over and check it out. They'll notice you admiring their "thing" and be flattered or excited or interested in talking with you now. Hello, Easy-Way-to-Get-Out-of-Awkwardly-Striking-Up-a-Conversation. You don't even have to talk first!
2. Be excited to share something that isn't "you."
That might not make a ton of sense, but I'll try to explain. When I'm in social situation and all I have to offer in terms of conversation is me, I bulk. I have a weird sense of humor that you have to get used to, and I'm awkward (like, seriously awkward), and if all I've got to talk about with this random person is ME, it's going downhill in a hurry. Lately, though, I've been talking about my business, which I'm super excited about and I get to make genuine connections as a result. Pick a project, hobby, job, etc. or two in your life that you are just loving and when people strike up conversation, navigate them towards that topic. You'll be the Queen Bee in no time.
3.  Take a friend.
This might be the most comfortable way to finding your stride in a room full of strangers. Now, if you take a friend so that you don't have to talk to anyone else and make no new connections, that's defeating the purpose. But if you've got a friend with you who already knows your quirks and thinks you're cool, and someone that you can make eye contact with across the room and be on the same page, you'll feel SO much better about these new people who didn't find your LOST reference hilarious... (I promise you, it was hilarious). 
So far, these are my new tips for getting out there and being social. It's working pretty well, I'd say!

I hope you're have a great Thursday. I'm off to a coffee date with a new friend! :)

xo
Sarah :: Your Plucky Picaroon

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2 comments:

  1. gosh i am super awkward too when it comes to being approachable and especially talking about myself in new groups. If i think you are cooler than me and I start talking about myself I do this weird red splotchy thing on my chest and neck /jaw line area... way to go, Brooke

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  2. Sometimes when I meet new people I just strike up a conversation and will talk to them for ages and then I'm all like, "Oh, by the way. I'm Nina. What's your name?" and then I feel slightly awkward or embarrassed. (JK I rarely get embarrased.)

    Or: scenario 2
    Hi, I'm Nina, whats you're name?
    Hi, I'm Lukas.
    Me: OMG I totally dated this guy named Lukas my sophomore year in high school and when we made out he tasted like onions and hot dogs all the time and I just didn't understand why and he was so touchy-feely that he literally took my hand that was holding my books so he could hold it so I broke up with him two weeks later.

    I just tell people my whole life story as soon as I meet them. And it's awkward. Kind of like I've done on this comment. I need to learn how to not be so social. Or how to be social when I'm in a major grump slump.

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