Elemental, My Dear Watson

Sometimes, you have really high expectations of people and they let you down miserably. They don't follow through or make you false promises or could care less about how their actions affect you. These people, once encountered, can be difficult to get out of your head and can taint your perspective.

However, sometimes people rise to [and even exceed] expectations. It's a pleasant surprise to find that some people really do have good intentions and gracious hearts.
The more people I meet and know, the more times I get myself confused, wound up, or in situations that let others [or myself] down. This adulthood thing is a tough nut to crack, and the approaches to it vary so much that it is difficult to know which way is up sometimes.
A few elemental values have become clearer, however.

{::}Honesty is, in fact, the best policy. 
It is not easy or fun a lot of the time, but it definitely keeps everyone on the same page, dispenses with the injustice and immaturity of game-playing, and keeps interactions honorable.

{::}Discretion is, in fact, the better part of valor.

Keeping your own ish private is one thing. Being a trustworthy steward of others' business is probably one of the best ways you'll ever serve them.

{::}A friend is, in fact, one of the best things you can have and one of the best things you can be.

I'm not sure this one needs any explanation, but just in case -- No one out there is making it alone. Trustworthy, open, and forgiving companions are vital. Knowing that you need people like that, it's probably best to strive to be people like that, don't you think?

{::}Forgive, of course, but don't forget.

Every interaction you've had that has required forgiveness has probably shaped your life in some way. Why would we want to forget those things? I don't suggest holding onto bitterness or anything [that's the forgiveness part] but remember what put you in that situation in the first place, how you handled it, and how you want that sort of thing to go in the future. 
So, in my opinion anyway, don't forget anything if you can help it. That's like tearing a whole chapter out of the story of your life. The plot may not make sense any more if pieces are missing. [oh, and forgiving yourself counts too!]

The lessons of being a grownup definitely come with a price, but I think that we're doing alright. To the wonderful friends I have called on lately, from the bottom of my heart, 

thank you.


Sarah :: Plucky in Love

Sarah, aka "Plucky", blogs on the reg, unless she's on vacation or there's a Pretty Little Liars marathon or she's mulling over the implications of the phrase "on fleek." She can't live without iced coffee, a portable phone charger, or equal pay. Say hello!

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