Choice

It's funny when you think about it, but life is really just a series of choices.
To get out of bed -To not get out of bed
To eat the donut -To eat the oatmeal
To brush your teeth -To wear earrings

I read once that a person can rarely accurately say, "He made me do it. He made me [fill in the blank] ." Unless someone is forcibly moving your arms and legs, or carrying you physically from one location to another, generally speaking, no one makes you do anything.
You choose what to do based on the outcome.

"My parents made me eat the spinach before I could leave the table."
False.
Your parents gave you options with varying consequences:
A. Eat the spinach. Leave the table. All is well.
B. Refuse the spinach. Cause a scene. Get sent to your room.
C. First, refuse the spinach. Next, be threatened with being sent to your room. Then, eat the spinach.
D. E. F. G. ... The options may not be infinite, but there are lots different ways this can go.

Rather than being made to eat spinach, you chose to eat spinach so that you would not suffer any undue or negative consequences.

That's the first thing to keep in mind. No matter how your mind has worked out any given situation, you always have a choice. Yes, that includes Nazis, brain-washed cult followers, and 16 year olds who hate spinach but don't want to lose texting privileges.

Also, some choices you make may put you in situations that leave you with a greatly limited number of options. Joining military service, for example, leaves with you just a few options in certain situations regarding training and obedience. Or getting yourself stranded in a foreign country; you may choose to go home, but you may now have limited options because your previous choices left you in a bit of a predicament. Keep in mind, your choices brought you here.

Another very important point about choices is perception. What seems a tiny, insignificant choice to you may in fact be terribly important to someone else. Ordering your french fries with no salt, for example, causes the fry cook to start an entire new batch fries to be watched over so that no one mistakenly salts them before your order is filled. That's 4 minutes of someones life dedicated to your saltless fries.

Conversely, not taking any action is also a form of choice. When something has been brought to your attention by a co-worker, roommate, sibling, or other various loved one and you choose to do nothing, you are as effectively making that choice as any other.

In short, never underestimate the power, influence, and consequences of your choices. I'm conjuring images of the ripple effect on the placed pond. You may never know how monumental that decision of yours seems until it reaches the outer ring and encompasses an acre of water.

A great deal of ourselves -- our true nature, our inner being, the person we call "me" -- is apparent in the choices we make, and the options we consider. When you recognize how much of your life is, and has been, your choice, you begin to grasp a power previously unavailable to you by your own doing.

So, here's the question: Are you ready to be powerful? "With great power comes great responsibility," as they say. Just be careful. When you begin to take an active role in the decisions you make, you may find you're not quite who you thought you were... and you just might surprise yourself.

Sarah :: Plucky in Love

Sarah, aka "Plucky", blogs on the reg, unless she's on vacation or there's a Pretty Little Liars marathon or she's mulling over the implications of the phrase "on fleek." She can't live without iced coffee, a portable phone charger, or equal pay. Say hello!

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